Sorry we all just kinda woke up and went and chilled at Newtown with all the hipsters this morning :P But anyway, I’m back now and OMG
FLORENCE WAS AMAZING.
Her support was Blood Orange and he was…meh, I dunno. He wasn’t bad, he just wasn’t EPIC like Florence. It was funny, though, how after he…
While Korra is the Princess of Nicknames, Toph will always remain Queen.
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Eclipse
| Dad: | There's going to be an eclipse on Sunday. |
| Me: | Time to take out the fire nation. |
| Dad: | What? |
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| Me: | I mean, cool. |
I do not understand people that are attracted to villians in movies. I mean, they are the villians, they do evil things and are horrible.
Of course there is the exception when hollywood ups the sex-appeal of a villian, or makes them more understandable/human.
It’s awkward, but it makes me worry about the people that do that. Do they think they deserve the love of evil people? Do they like being used? Are they evil psycho’s themselves? Who the fuck am i following on Tumblr? :S
rape culture means that if I don’t trust strange men, I’m a bitch, they’re not going to hurt me, stop being paranoid.
it also means if i’m attacked by strangers I should have been more careful, why was I out after dark, don’t I know what happens to…
Hey, I think rape culture is an important concept to discuss and all that, but your first point isn’t true. If anything, women are encouraged to be over-careful and over-reactions are met with sympathy for being ‘aware and careful around strange (monstrous!) men’
One interesting point about rape culture is that women are encouraged to be afraid/aware all the time, in every situation, of every man, and that encourages them to de-humanise men and be on constant alert.
That in turn disenfranchises men.
Possibly the one way to combat rape-culture is to ignore it. Go out into the streets at night and not even be a little afraid, smile politely at random strangers, not let what you wear or what others wear effect your behaviour towards them or opinion of.
Jesus christ this is awful.
a) Who gives a fuck if we disenfranchise men? The dynamic of rape culture subsists off of male privilege and it’s ridiculous that we should not only be expected to live up to these bizarre, impossible standards re: personal safety and presentation, but also take care not to alienate teh menz.
b) How the fuck is ignoring rape culture going to do anything to combat it? Honestly? What that does is send the message that it is perfectly acceptable that we have to live our lives on the defensive and endure the kind of treatment and scrutiny that we do. And uh, yeah, I am so not down with even pretending that this kind of social construct is acceptable.
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b) ah ignore was probably the wrong word. I just mean not allow it to rule you. Like, refuse to be defensive or careful or ‘aware’. Go out into the street at night like nothing can touch you. And let others know you fully expect them to respect your to enjoy that.
a) because men make up 50% of the population!
because just as young girls are taught how to behave and what wear, young boys are taught ‘what being a real man’ means and what to demand from women. Obviously though, that doesn’t excuse them, and just like women have to break free of what society expects of them, men too have do a lot of work to do.
rape culture means that if I don’t trust strange men, I’m a bitch, they’re not going to hurt me, stop being paranoid.
it also means if i’m attacked by strangers I should have been more careful, why was I out after dark, don’t I know what happens to…
rape culture means that if I don’t trust strange men, I’m a bitch, they’re not going to hurt me, stop being paranoid.
it also means if i’m attacked by strangers I should have been more careful, why was I out after dark, don’t I know what happens to…
Hey, I think rape culture is an important concept to discuss and all that, but your first point isn’t true. If anything, women are encouraged to be over-careful and over-reactions are met with sympathy for being ‘aware and careful around strange (monstrous!) men’
One interesting point about rape culture is that women are encouraged to be afraid/aware all the time, in every situation, of every man, and that encourages them to de-humanise men and be on constant alert.
That in turn disenfranchises men.
Possibly the one way to combat rape-culture is to ignore it. Go out into the streets at night and not even be a little afraid, smile politely at random strangers, not let what you wear or what others wear effect your behaviour towards them or opinion of.
No, men are not dehumanized or disempowered when women are wary around them. Some 6% of men are admitted rapists. And women are expected to always be polite to them. Just try watching a woman with a man who is flirting with her and won’t back off. Men have the power to invade a woman’s personal space and ignore her boundaries, and society expects women to submit to their power. (For the most part, intersections obviously complicate things.)
Men are empowered when they respect a woman’s boundaries, and when they demand that their friends do too. If men feel bad that a woman is uncomfortable with them, they are being unreasonable.
It is not a woman’s responsibility to rebuke rape culture. She is the victim of it, even if she is never the victim of rape. It is men’s responsibility not to rape, and to put down rape culture.
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Men are dehumanized by rape culture! Are you telling me if you were walking down the street one night, going to buy milk and two women saw you coming along the street, looked nervous, zipped their coats up a little bit tighter, crossed to the other side of the street, and glanced back nervously at you, you wouldn’t feel disenfranchised or dehumanised?
Saying that, i’d still rather be a man in rape culture, then a objectified women, but let’s not ignore the effect on men, either.
You are right about men not respecting women’s boundaries.
As for it’s “not a woman’s responsibility to rebuke rape culture”. Well, that’s one of those terrible things that are unfair but true. For instance, it’s totally unfair that the LGBQT community have to fight for the right to basic equality, but do you really think any change would have happened if we didn’t? Do you think we would have such improved respect if we did nothing? Do you think, unprompted, society would change? Campaigning and ‘rebuking’ is what we do to create change, but it also strengthens us.
Same thing goes for rape culture. It sucks, but.
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rape culture means that if I don’t trust strange men, I’m a bitch, they’re not going to hurt me, stop being paranoid.
it also means if i’m attacked by strangers I should have been more careful, why was I out after dark, don’t I know what happens to girls on their own?
it’s when men tell me to smile sweetheart, look pretty, I’m here for public consumption.
and my tight jeans may be grounds for letting a rapist walk away free.
Hey, I think rape culture is an important concept to discuss and all that, but your first point isn’t true. If anything, women are encouraged to be over-careful and over-reactions are met with sympathy for being ‘aware and careful around strange (monstrous!) men’
One interesting point about rape culture is that women are encouraged to be afraid/aware all the time, in every situation, of every man, and that encourages them to de-humanise men and be on constant alert.
That in turn disenfranchises men.
Possibly the one way to combat rape-culture is to ignore it. Go out into the streets at night and not even be a little afraid, smile politely at random strangers, not let what you wear or what others wear effect your behaviour towards them or opinion of.
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